One man's frustration with his sister breastfeeding "everywhere" in public, including at his own wedding, has sparked a heated online debate. He felt it was “embarrassing” for her to breastfeed in front of 250 guests, while others saw it as a natural act that should not be shamed.
Breastfeeding At Wedding
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In a now-viral Reddit post, a 34-year-old man expresses his annoyance at his sister's constant breastfeeding, but his irritation peaked when she brought her baby to his wedding with his 23-year-old wife.
Sister Breastfeeds “Every Where”
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“She breastfeeds whenever she goes,” the OP shares.“
“We visit her house? She'll breastfeed in front of us. Visiting our parents? She'll breastfeed. Going out in a public setting? She'll sit on a bench in the park and breastfeed. Go out to a restaurant? She breastfeeds.
Brother's Silence Breaks
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The OP mentions that he had previously avoided discussing the matter with his sister because he feared she would become “mad” and “offended,” but her behavior at his wedding caused him to lose his cool.
She Did “It” Again
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“During the reception dinner she just did it again,” writes the husband, referring to his sister breastfeeding.
“Kindly" Asking Sister to Stop Breastfeeding
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Irritated by the fact that his sister was breastfeeding at his wedding, he “kindly” asked her why she didn't bring formula or put milk in a bottle to avoid breastfeeding at that moment.
Sister Responds
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The sister simply said, "Because I don't have to. I feel comfortable breastfeeding. Getting milk out on my own is more painful."
“Embarrassing” Herself And Everyone Else
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The husband then expressed to his sister that she could make a “sacrifice” and compromise for just one day instead of breastfeeding and “completely embarrassing herself” in front of 250 guests at his wedding.
The sister responded by saying she couldn't do much about it as the baby needed her milk, to which he replied that she should have been more thoughtful instead of “embarrassing” herself and the couple.
Family Backlash
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The husband explained the situation to his wife, who then accused him of being an “AH” and demanded that he apologize to his sister, with his parents also siding with his sister.
“And now pretty much everyone thinks I'm an AH since I'm the only person who had a problem with it.”
“Bad Etiquette” And “Tacky”
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In an attempt to justify his actions, the husband explained in his that he felt it was “bad etiquette” and “tacky” to breastfeed at a formal event, and that his sister should have found an alternative solution for the occasion.
Online Community Weighs In
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Seeking validation after being criticized by his family and wife, the husband turned to the Reddit community for their opinion on whether he was right to call out his sister for breastfeeding at his wedding.
Their consensus was largely the same.
“Sister Deserves A Hug And A Thank You”
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The husband received severe criticism from many Reddit users, giving him a "YTA" verdict for calling out his sister for breastfeeding at his wedding. They agreed that his sister deserves a “hug” and a “thank you” for attending the wedding with a 2-month-old and making the effort to breastfeed in public.
One commenter who praised the sister wrote, “Wow, I’m amazed a mother of a 2m old came to a wedding and stayed through the reception. That’s incredible. She must really love her brother in order to deal with a 2m old out of the house for hours.”
No Food For Baby Should Mean No Food For Guests
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One Redditor expressed sarcasm in response to the husband's complaint about breastfeeding at his wedding, writing, “Did you ask all the other guests at the wedding not to eat as well? He should have made everyone just eat the same way! ” one user expressed sarcastically.”
“Ok everyone - we’ve provided a thin blanket for every guest to place over their plate and head so that you can privately enjoy your meal. The other option is to go eat on the sh.tter! Happy meal time!”
Making Breastfeeding “Weird”
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One commenter was appalled by the husband's behavior, imploring him to "stop s.xualizing [his] sister's breasts."
They expressed disbelief, asking, “Why you guys gotta make everything weird?”
"Creepiness" of Age Gap
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Several commenters expressed their discomfort with the age difference between the husband and wife, stating that they were too “focused on the breastfeeding” that they “missed the creepiness” of this age gap.
On the other hand, some people disagreed and argued that the age difference between the husband and wife isn't necessarily creepy, but there seems to be a recurring pattern of “icky behavior” in stories involving older husbands and younger wives.
"Controlling and Immature"
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There were those who suggested that there is a strong connection between men who marry significantly younger women and displaying "controlling" and "immature" behavior.
“It's not hard to see the connections between a man with control issues and an older man who marries a woman who is barely an adult,” one argued.
“Madness”
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Others were surprised that despite the age difference between the husband and wife, it was the younger wife who seemed to have a more “mature” perspective on the situation and saw that her husband shouldn’t have called out the sister for breastfeeding at the wedding.
“Imagine being married to a woman 11 years younger and her still being more mature,” they wrote. “Madness.”
“You Do Not Have Breasts”
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“I would figure that having your parents and wife tell you would have been enough, but some people need more evidence,” commented one user.
“Since you personally do not have breasts, you have no clue how painful or difficult pumping might be, so you're a jerk for suggesting it.”
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